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Editor's Note: In some issues we will have general advice articles. In fact, we have one lined up for next issue, that will go in this section. However, currently we're just going to respond to our first request for advice. (White text is the message we received.Yellow text is our response.) "The girl I like also happens to be one of my really close friends. Well, we weren't always close, but recently we've gotten much closer. The thing is, as great as it is that we're close, it still leaves something to be desired. Because being close to her and being around her more, just reminds me how much I like her. Also, this girl has this weird ability to make me smile no matter how cruddy I feel. So, what I need to know is, what should I do about my feelings for her?"--Anonymous Well, this is a classic problem. You like one of of your friends as more than a friend. We'll start with the obvious. If she likes you back, then go for it. Ask her out ASAP. Unless you're worried about endangering your friendship, in which case you may want to discuss the possibilities with her. But, we're thinking that you could've figured that out yourself. So, we're going to assume that she doesn't like you back (which sucks, sorry bro). The fact that you're good friends with her brings up a more complicated problem. Your list of reasonable actions is severely limited because you don't want to do anything that would compromise your friendship. Thus, here is our advice. Find a way, subtle or not—depending on your preference—to let her know about your feelings for her. Then, just enjoy being around her. Being her close friend shouldn't be so bad. And, if you think about it, many strong relationships begin as friendships. Plus, if she gets hurt by other guys, and you're there to help her out, she may begin to see you in a new light. She may realize that she's been overlooking you the whole time; she may realize that you aren't like other guys because you've proven that you care about her. To conclude, until someone else comes along and "strikes your fancy", we advise that you build up your friendship with this girl and wait to see what happens. Oh, by the way, you should try to avoid situations, if possible, where you'll be exposed to her flirting, etc. with other guys. We all know how that is. Good Luck. --Seth |
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